My girlfriend (who i eventually plan to marry) had been having sex frequently (oral and intercourse) since the age of 18 with her ex. She has even told me of the ways, times and how they used to make love and play with each other. I wanted my first time to be with the special person. I held off all temptations until I met her. But now that I know of her past sex life, I feel as though my sacrifice is worthless. This is really bothering me. And that fact that I haven’t experienced with other people compounds the agony. I sometimes get turned off when we have sex since thoughts of her previous experiences creeps in and I feel disgusted with her. Recently, I’ve been getting these thoughts even when we are not having sex. I have even gone to the extend of cheating on her, but I wound not forgive myself if I did. I am not someone who would cheat on her. We are also very open and truthful, but I think I will be really hurt her when I talk about this. We currently have a healthy relationship, which might be be hurt due to such disturbing thoughts. Your thoughts on how to approach and overcome this situation will be of immense help. Your advice is much appreciated. Thank you.
--- Name withheld on request
Dear friend,
You obviously need to move on. Seriously! The past is the past. She has ex’s, but there is a reason that they are her ex’s and not her current boyfriend. She clearly feels comfortable enough to talk to you about her sexual past you should be pleasd she wants to confide in you. As for this feelings about cheating they mean nothing, you are just confused and want to seek any possible outcome that will help you get out of the situation. Be a man, talk and confide in her but remember the past is the past dont let it ruin the future.
